Casandra Martin

I have reached “that” age when I catch myself wishing that I knew then what I know now. I look back at myself as a young mom and, more often than not, see someone who was worried, stressed, and always in a hurry. Today I would love to be able to go back, put my arm around that young woman, and remind her to breathe. You are going to make it. It is all going to be okay.

Here are ten things I would tell that young mom.

1. Memories are more important than the mess.
2. Teaching them manners is worth the trouble.
3. We all need grace. It is okay to give it, and even better to receive it.
4. Consistency is one of your most important parenting tools.
5. Make listening your default.
6. Be silly. Life is too short to be serious all the time.
7. Never underestimate your child’s ability to experience God.
8. Invest big in your relationship with your spouse. Your children learn more about love, life, and making it last from the two of you than anyone else.
9. Pray for your kids and with your kids…every day.
10. Teaching them to look like Jesus begins in the mirror.

My Jesus Resolution today is to breathe, smile, and do. When I read back through this list, I realize that I can still bring these things to life in my family. I may not be a young mom anymore, but my children still need a happy, confident, Christ-focused woman in their lives. We all need memories, silliness, consistency, and grace. Most importantly, I can celebrate the Christ-forming transformation that is taking shape in all of us as we grow and learn how to walk with Him together.